Milepost December 2007

Hope That Floats

 

Recently I was in a holiday blue mood that would not easily budge.  The meaning of the season was not emerging through the over-abundance of fluff and commercialism.
 

After a brief indulgence of self pity, I decided to do something positive. It was time to boost the low mood with actions that would predictably make me happier. After a few hours of intentional acts of joy, I began to catch positive reverberations of my actions. I felt better. For instance, I complimented a stranger on his festive, red shirt and he responded with genuine gratitude and complimented me as well. Instantly I felt more harmony and peace with the world around me. Even though it was a small interaction, numerous similar initiatives in that short time period brought the low mood up. I had re-discovered how to build resilience or Hope That Floats.

Building resilience is a life skill that enhances self esteem. To be able to count on oneself to address daily emotional needs of life is a skill the leads to the buoyancy we seek. And, learning to do something positive is only one of several ways to gain resilience.

Try this one – practice intentional waiting.  Anxiety and the high blood pressure that accompanies it decrease when the mental message is one of “choosing to wait” instead of the mental message of “being forced to wait”. Hope That Floats is easily experienced when a long grocery store checkout line can be turned into an opportunity. Use the time to double check the gift list or watch a child playing in a grocery cart.

And there is another way to be an expert in creating Hope That Floats in your life. Focus the mind on managing your expectations. During the holidays, many of our human interactions at traditional celebrations are laden with good and bad memories of these celebrations in the past.   Those memories become the unconscious expectations of this year’s traditional celebrations, and we expect the human interactions to be recreated too. When we don’t examine our unconscious expectations, the mind is unable to direct a hopeful focus. For instance, take time to be aware of your holiday memories and the associated past human interactions prior to arriving at that family gathering.  This constructive self-awareness exercise fortifies you to be more realistic about this year’s family gatherings. Manage your expectations and you will leave the family gathering feeling resilient.

Hope That Floats or the Life Skill of Resilience is created when you:

  • Intentionally do something positive over a time period
  • Practice intentional waiting
  • Manage your expectations

 

May your feet be guided onto the path of peace today  ~

 and in your daily living of the coming new year.

Beth Abel, Life Coach

Life Maps ~ a well lit path has life direction

 

 

Donna Broberg uses Life Maps inspiration to help Austin

 

Amidst the holiday frantic pace of getting many to-dos done, choose this moment to ponder the purpose of your life.

Life Maps client Donna Broberg has found an amazing way to live her goal directed lifestyle.  In a Life Maps course, Donna (ENFP) discovered the immense energy she has for creating hospitable settings for families.  Her Life Maps goal captures this life energy in numerous venues.  Completing a family cookbook, and designing a user friendly church kitchen are some of the past projects that bring her joy.  The recent need for her husband’s medical care at Brackenridge Hospital opened a new purpose-filled venue.  Donna learned that patients can’t have loved ones comfortably sleep beside them because there are few Sleeper Chairs available.  Donna knew her desire to be available at her loved one’s bedside was a desire many family members have.  “I wanted to be there through the night to help and comfort Scott. Suddenly I knew my limitless energy to create hospitality was needed! Life Maps coaching taught me to fully appreciate that I make a difference in this world when I use this energy.  Now I confidently approach use of my time knowing I’ll make myself happy and also help others!”  Donna rose to the community need by forming the Sleep Chair Project in conjunction with the Seton Fund.     A total of thirty sleepchairs are needed to meet the needs of each hospital floor unit and, with Donna’s enthusiasm to meet the need, donations are coming in to fund the project. But that’s not all!  Donna offers more hospitality!  She hosts  delicious home-cooked meals for groups of individual donors to the project. Here’s a link to the Austin American Statesman’s coverage of the project.

http://www.statesman.com/search/content/news/stories/local/11/24/1124chairs.html

 

And that’s not all!  Donna offers even more hospitality!  There will be an exclusive dinner for Life Maps Milepost readers who donate to this project.  It will be held Spring 2008.  Contact Donna and request notice of the date and time it will occur or watch for updates here.  Don’t miss the opportunity to share fine food and the best fellowship (like minded people from Life Maps).  Donate to this meaningful cause in the Austin community.
 

Contact Donna Broberg:   sleepchairproject@ sbcglobal.net
 

To make a donation directly:  contact Seton Fund  512.324.7000  x77593
 

Myers Briggs Personality Type course will be offered on Wednesday, Jan. 16th, 5 to 9pm at Beth Abel’s office. Cost for the course is $90.  For quality educational process, the course group size is limited to eight individuals.  Make an email request for the registration form and mail the completed form with your check soon. Seats are filled on a first come first serve basis.  

 

A free consultation for prospective clients is readily available.  Please contact Beth Abel at 512.327.6677 to set an appointment for exploring how Life Maps services might enhance your life.
 

Registration is now open for the next Personal Goal Setting course for women.  The course will begin on Saturday, February 16, 2008, 9am to 1pm. The fifteen hour course requires a five month process to accomplish its purpose. The course is widely popular with women of all ages and several women have voiced interest in registering.  A course description is available on the website lifemapsworkshops.com. Look at the Life Maps Programs page. Please contact Beth Abel now if you wish to register.

Beth Abel’s First Solo Journey on the Appalachian Trail
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In 1997 I began a personal goal journey that continues to renew me daily and give me purpose for living. I am hiking the Appalachian Trail each September, one section at a time until I have hiked the entire 2,124 miles. I have accumulated 807.5 miles so far and when this September’s section is completed, my grand total will be 930.5 miles! I am very near the 1,000 mile marker, something to really celebrate. In just a few days I will begin hiking the 123 AT miles north of the Smoky Mountain National Park. This section of the AT follows the North Carolina/ Tennessee border. It’s the last section to complete so that I will have hiked all of the AT south of the Maryland/Pennsylvania border. Now that too is worth celebrating!

 

For many of the Life Maps Milepost readers, this update keeps in step with my journey that you’ve followed for sometime now. But other readers need some historical foundation for the introduction to this current bulletin about my personal goal journey and the AT. Why would a 57 year old woman be striving for such a goal?

 

About ten years ago I began to dread the empty nest stage of family life. I feared that all of the joy of life would suddenly evaporate when our children graduated from high school and launched into adulthood. I’m a psychotherapist and life coach of 30 plus years professional experience so I knew these thoughts were absurd. But life transitions are difficult for everyone and I was overcome with dread. After many months of brooding over my dread of the future, I identified three specific problems that had to be addressed. I knew that if I could change myself by changing my attitude and perspective, I could successfully pass through this life transition. Problem identification was the first step. The three problems were: 1)I felt spiritually weak and unable to face change in my life. There was no spiritual purpose or direction in my future. 2) Even though people around me saw a successful woman in every dimension of life, I experienced myself as boring. When I looked to my future, I saw nothing of substance or passion occurring. 3) I’ve never been an athletic person, but at this stage of life, my physical well being was shot. I was overweight and didn’t trust my body to perform beyond a sedentary lifestyle. This problem was overwhelming because I had no idea how to begin.

 

 

 Quite by accident I discovered the AT and began reading trail journals of people from various walks of life who hiked the trail in one event of long distance backpacking. I discovered an interest and later a personal energy about lightweight backpacking on the AT. I found that many people of all ages used this lengthy walking journey to sort through a transition in life. That was it! I could do the same thing and address all three problems I faced. I’m describing an inward process that took months before I could even speak my personal interest in AT hiking to anyone. Now I faced new fears instead of the old dreading of post-empty nest living. But this fear had positive energy in it ! In the first years I made slow progress because I was in a new frontier of my life with little self confidence, belief in God’s presence and few skills. There were many trials during the preparation and conditioning phase as well as difficulties when I got on the trail.

 

I’ve been blessed all these years with friends and family who are supportive to me in this personal goal. Thank you Lord because I could not experience this life balance without the blessings that have come my way. One particular blessing is my hiking partner since 2002, Marcia Roland. Smasher, that’s her trail name, and I, Spirit’s my trail name, have enjoyed four weeks on the trail each September. Unfortunately she will not be able to join me this year. I have given much thought to this hike and I know that I’m ready to hike alone. Yes, there are dangers. But, the trail has taught me to not live life in fear. Instead, everyday is a blessing to be lived with full awareness of this reality but also awareness of God’s presence at all times.

 

I invite you to take this journey with me over the next three weeks. I will be entering trail notes on the Life Maps Milepost from internet sites at hiking hostels along the way. Also, I hope to visit with you personally about this journey when I return to Austin.

 

May the peace that passes all understanding be with you and with me.

 

“Spirit” Beth Abel

 

 

Life Maps course announcements

 

October 11, Thursday – 5 to 8:30pm. Myers-Briggs Personality Type course - $90

Participants may sign up for this course through the website on a first come – first serve basis. The course group is limited to eight participants.  Read about this course in Life Maps Programs.

 

October 27, Saturday – 9am to 1pm. Personal Goal Setting Course for Women - $395

This is the first meeting of the fifteen hour course. The remaining meeting times are selected by participant consensus. There are a few openings left in this course that’s limited to eight women. Read the course description in Life Maps Programs.
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