Milepost December 2007

Hope That Floats

 

Recently I was in a holiday blue mood that would not easily budge.  The meaning of the season was not emerging through the over-abundance of fluff and commercialism.
 

After a brief indulgence of self pity, I decided to do something positive. It was time to boost the low mood with actions that would predictably make me happier. After a few hours of intentional acts of joy, I began to catch positive reverberations of my actions. I felt better. For instance, I complimented a stranger on his festive, red shirt and he responded with genuine gratitude and complimented me as well. Instantly I felt more harmony and peace with the world around me. Even though it was a small interaction, numerous similar initiatives in that short time period brought the low mood up. I had re-discovered how to build resilience or Hope That Floats.

Building resilience is a life skill that enhances self esteem. To be able to count on oneself to address daily emotional needs of life is a skill the leads to the buoyancy we seek. And, learning to do something positive is only one of several ways to gain resilience.

Try this one – practice intentional waiting.  Anxiety and the high blood pressure that accompanies it decrease when the mental message is one of “choosing to wait” instead of the mental message of “being forced to wait”. Hope That Floats is easily experienced when a long grocery store checkout line can be turned into an opportunity. Use the time to double check the gift list or watch a child playing in a grocery cart.

And there is another way to be an expert in creating Hope That Floats in your life. Focus the mind on managing your expectations. During the holidays, many of our human interactions at traditional celebrations are laden with good and bad memories of these celebrations in the past.   Those memories become the unconscious expectations of this year’s traditional celebrations, and we expect the human interactions to be recreated too. When we don’t examine our unconscious expectations, the mind is unable to direct a hopeful focus. For instance, take time to be aware of your holiday memories and the associated past human interactions prior to arriving at that family gathering.  This constructive self-awareness exercise fortifies you to be more realistic about this year’s family gatherings. Manage your expectations and you will leave the family gathering feeling resilient.

Hope That Floats or the Life Skill of Resilience is created when you:

  • Intentionally do something positive over a time period
  • Practice intentional waiting
  • Manage your expectations

 

May your feet be guided onto the path of peace today  ~

 and in your daily living of the coming new year.

Beth Abel, Life Coach

Life Maps ~ a well lit path has life direction

 

 

Donna Broberg uses Life Maps inspiration to help Austin

 

Amidst the holiday frantic pace of getting many to-dos done, choose this moment to ponder the purpose of your life.

Life Maps client Donna Broberg has found an amazing way to live her goal directed lifestyle.  In a Life Maps course, Donna (ENFP) discovered the immense energy she has for creating hospitable settings for families.  Her Life Maps goal captures this life energy in numerous venues.  Completing a family cookbook, and designing a user friendly church kitchen are some of the past projects that bring her joy.  The recent need for her husband’s medical care at Brackenridge Hospital opened a new purpose-filled venue.  Donna learned that patients can’t have loved ones comfortably sleep beside them because there are few Sleeper Chairs available.  Donna knew her desire to be available at her loved one’s bedside was a desire many family members have.  “I wanted to be there through the night to help and comfort Scott. Suddenly I knew my limitless energy to create hospitality was needed! Life Maps coaching taught me to fully appreciate that I make a difference in this world when I use this energy.  Now I confidently approach use of my time knowing I’ll make myself happy and also help others!”  Donna rose to the community need by forming the Sleep Chair Project in conjunction with the Seton Fund.     A total of thirty sleepchairs are needed to meet the needs of each hospital floor unit and, with Donna’s enthusiasm to meet the need, donations are coming in to fund the project. But that’s not all!  Donna offers more hospitality!  She hosts  delicious home-cooked meals for groups of individual donors to the project. Here’s a link to the Austin American Statesman’s coverage of the project.

http://www.statesman.com/search/content/news/stories/local/11/24/1124chairs.html

 

And that’s not all!  Donna offers even more hospitality!  There will be an exclusive dinner for Life Maps Milepost readers who donate to this project.  It will be held Spring 2008.  Contact Donna and request notice of the date and time it will occur or watch for updates here.  Don’t miss the opportunity to share fine food and the best fellowship (like minded people from Life Maps).  Donate to this meaningful cause in the Austin community.
 

Contact Donna Broberg:   sleepchairproject@ sbcglobal.net
 

To make a donation directly:  contact Seton Fund  512.324.7000  x77593
 

Myers Briggs Personality Type course will be offered on Wednesday, Jan. 16th, 5 to 9pm at Beth Abel’s office. Cost for the course is $90.  For quality educational process, the course group size is limited to eight individuals.  Make an email request for the registration form and mail the completed form with your check soon. Seats are filled on a first come first serve basis.  

 

A free consultation for prospective clients is readily available.  Please contact Beth Abel at 512.327.6677 to set an appointment for exploring how Life Maps services might enhance your life.
 

Registration is now open for the next Personal Goal Setting course for women.  The course will begin on Saturday, February 16, 2008, 9am to 1pm. The fifteen hour course requires a five month process to accomplish its purpose. The course is widely popular with women of all ages and several women have voiced interest in registering.  A course description is available on the website lifemapsworkshops.com. Look at the Life Maps Programs page. Please contact Beth Abel now if you wish to register.

Are you Bushwacking or using Switchbacks in your life?
9/8/2007 9:24:16 AM Link 1 comment | Add comment

Fifty six miles hiked in four days makes a good start for me.  I'm writing from Erwin, Tn. where I'm staying at Uncle Johnny's Hiking Hostel - uncle johnnys.net.  This is the spot I retreated to when, in 1999, I left the AT bruised and worn out from hiking this section with my seventeen year old son.  Lesson learned in '99 - never hike with someone who doesn't fit your pace because you'll compare yourself to him, and in my case, I couldn't keep up.  Returning here was actually a sweet reward because now I know how to care for myself.  I am enjoying the benefits of eight years of progress and self discipline.  The fifty six miles just completed have haunted me for years as a failure, an impossible task for me.  But returning to this spot on the trail equipped with more experience, skill and definitely self acceptance makes this mileage completion something like a Homecoming with myself.

I compare this "return to succeed" vs the "1999 recuperating siege" (I stayed at Uncle Johnny's for 7 days trying to recuperate) to "using switchbacks" vs "bushwacking".  Let me define the terms for you as follows.  Trail maintainers will build the trail on a long uphill section using a zig-zag method so the incline of the path is mild.  We love those volunteer trail maintainers!  When looking at a huge mountain to climb, it's so comforting to know there are switchback trails ahead!  "Bushwacking" is a term used to describe someone's choice to strike out solo at the the huge mountain and create a path with sheer will power and strength.

In '99, I didn't have the self awareness to accept how much I was trying to keep up with my son's pace.  I was "bushwacking".  But I did learn from that failure because I evaluated the experience and focussed on addressing the weaknesses of my original approach to the AT.  I began to build a plan with "switchbacks" in mind.  For example: I am now immovable on the basic principles of how fast I walk, how much pack weight I carry, how much water I need.

What are your "switchbacks" in your life plan?  They should address what you need.  A honest self appraisal of your needs always helps.  Secondly, "switchbacks" should include your values which is the "how  I'll succeed" part of the plan.  It required years for me to discover some of my values.  One that I accepted in '99 was "I must hike my own hike".

Well, that's some thoughts from the trail.  I'm headed south on the AT today.  I'm getting close to Hot Springs, NC.  It is nice to look forward to the relaxing hot springs.

Peace be with you.

"Spirit"  Beth Abel

Patty Stephens
9/8/2007 8:37:58 PM
Thank you for the inspiration. I am learning from your clarity with which you are letting your body, values and the earth inform your pace, and energy expended each day.
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